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I enjoy sharing my thoughts with the world. Even though some of the content is based in Atlanta i will include some FABULOUS things that all singles can relate to. ENJOY

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Atlanta/ Huntsville, Georgia/Alabama, United States
Sometimes I don't know what to right so I just write what I know...

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

Monday, June 8, 2009


It's been exactly a month and two days since my last BLOG!! I've really not been up to much just really really busy. NO NOT WITH WEDDING PLANS just life in general.

1. My brother got married
2. visited ATLANTA after 6 months . FUN FUN FUN
3 my dog had a baby. YUP JUST ONE

His name is OZZY.
4. I still love my job still.

I have a new picture with my and the ROOSTER.

Cute huh!!
That's all for now. I have new post coming soon so stay tuned

Wednesday, May 6, 2009


I know your like WHOA dude where has this chick been. I've been so CRAZY busy. I'm a party planner now. I want to continue writing in my stinky little blog but,I need your opinion. Is it worth it. STOP a second if you have some FREE time, read my STINKY LITTLE BLOG an tell me what you think . I NEED FEED BACK.
Still SINGLE IN THE CITY until JULY 28th( hopefully)!!!

Tuesday, April 21, 2009


I write because I have to express myself. I express myself because I have to breath. I breath because I have live and I live to write.

A Day Late and A Dollar Short..

Oswald called me yesterday...... I haven't talked to Oswald in two weeks..... Two weeks ago I told him I was getting married ...... Two weeks ago I completely removed him from my life............ Two weeks ago I finally broke free and two weeks later BOOM back again. I never really thought we weren't gonna talk again,I knew one day that he would call to talk or I would call to say hey but I was still surprised to hear from him so soon. He wanted to tell me that if I ever found myself ALONE again and back in the A that he was still here. In other word I still want to be with you. I didn't really give much thought into what he was saying didn't really care why he said it , he had already expressed his feelings toward me when I told him I was getting married. He said that he hadn't told me how he felt before because he didn't want to be selfish and that I had to work on me first. WHAT THE FREAK EVER. We went though this for a year I wanted nothing more then to be his OFFICIAL women and he never gave me a fighting chance. I wish you guys could have seen how strung out I was before this man had me OUT OF MY WORLD . I honestly felt like it was an out of body experience I was watching my body, mind, and soul deteriorate because I couldn't understand why he was the way he was with me. I was a yo-yo type relationship, when he finally got me on the edge of hie string , he would yank me up with the flick of his wrist.One of the questions I asked him was " Why didn't you tell me this SHIT sooner" ( yes I said shit). HE DIDN'T WANT TO BE SELFISH HE SAID.!!! Well I don't mind being selfish especially if it doesn't hurt......
Thanks for Listening......

Wednesday, April 8, 2009


I can't believe I'm saying this but I'm kind of getting tired of posting....... I don't have the inspiration I did when i was in the city and things we're happening to me everyday, where wi-fi was in great abundance and I was able to reference alot of the topics I wanted to discuss. I'm gonna end this single in the city blog soon because I'm getting married .I hope I have a little more inspiration to write. I should!!!

Thursday, April 2, 2009


I'm such an exhausted slacker. I 've been wanting to post more regularly but I haven't had the time and I'm scarred to post what I really feel. I guess i don't want anyone the read my deepest darkests so I give you the watered down version . I fear that someone who does know me will use my blog against me so I keep the R version to myself and share the PG parts. ANYWAY I have two journal entries that I will post today since I've been mainly writing on my Microsoft woks instead of on my blog. These journal entries are no yet rated.....

May 25th 2009

So I decided to bring the computer outside and type on it today. I just left the doctor because I been under a lot of stress. I’m o.k. physically but the stress I’ve been under has made my body react to it in a not so positive way. I keep the worst headaches, I sleep all the time, I have small stomach cramps and my shoulders are so tense that I can’t even turn my head sometimes. Things with ROOSTER and I are o.k. but we are both under a lot of stress due to the economy. Him more so then me and I just want to help but being the man that he is, that’s just out of the question. A post that I had a few weeks ago mentioned something about a SECRET I had for you my readers. Well I can now tell you what it is, ROOSTER has asked me to marry him (EXCITED!!!!), but not as much as I was in the beginning. We are crazy in love with each other but this proposal probably came at one of the worst times cause 2 DAYS LATER he got laid off. Ever since then it’s been nothing but stress for the pair of us. The reason I can talk about the wedding is because I finally told OSWALD about the whole thing. ENTIRELY. He was a little PISSED but oh well. BEYONCE’ put it best and you know what song I’m talking about. I often wondered if I had made the mistake and stayed in the A would have happened. I’m a firm believer that things happen for a reason and everything you go through is just a test to make you better. I think, even if things don’t happen for ROOSTER and me at least he put my faith back into the male race . Thanks for that …….

May 31st 2009

I’m listening to Usher sing about how he would do anything to prove the girl he’s with but he refuses to pay for the mistakes of another man. I get that totally (WOW DEJA VU) I know I haven’t written about this before. Recently I have learned things about a certain fellow that I dated for a long time. I have found pieces to the puzzle I hurt at first but then I put on that Alicia Keys and jumped to number 6 and it didn’t hurt so bad after that. I called one of my very best friends to ask her if it was ok to make it hurt like he hurt me, she was there for the beginning and the end. She never told me I TOLD YOU SO but she help me realized that I learned a VALUABLE lesson. Men are going to show how they feel, forgotten Valentines Day present; late to special dinners you’ve planned for the two of you. I absolutely lost myself in this man. I wasn’t number one to often. YES I’M TALKING ABOUT OSWALD ok I said it and I really don’t care if he reading this. Back to what I was talking about in the beginning, ROOSTER loves me, I had to think o.k. is this a rebound? NOPE had that, do I really love this man, HELL YES I wish everyone could meet him. We were talking the other day about TRUST in our relationship. He asked me was it hard for me to trust men. Thinking about I kinda do trust men but I’m never surprised when they screw up. One things for sure I’ll never make ROOSTER pay for OSWALD mistakes.

Thanks for listening.

Friday, March 20, 2009


ROOSTER and I got up early yesterday morning to get some stuff to cook for breakfast. I drove because I also needed to put gas in the car. I went up to the STOP sign with a quick pause and took advantage of the clear traffic . OUT OF NO WHERE, i see blue lights behind me. OMG. For all of you that don't know me I have very severe anxiety and get panic attacks for things that happen in everyday life. I can't help it though I've tried. ANYWAY after doing my counts and breathing exercises I got a ticket. Yeah it was my fault but, i didn't see the cop or I would have come to a complete stop. When the cop left ROOSTER looked at me and said " Are you o.k." I nodded my head yes as i was trying to breath in through my nose and out of my mouth. He honestly didn't understand the effect that anxiety has on me. I kind of laughed it off like it was no big deal but two seconds later I had to jump out of the car for an URGENT call to my friend EARL( ewww !!!sorry). This episode has led me to my Internet search for today. HOW TO DEAL WITH SEVERE ANXIETY.


Monday, March 16, 2009


ROOSTER ( FORMALLY DB)and I had a great weekend. On Friday ,I watched him and my father play poker ( they won't teach me) , then on Saturday we went old school and went to the skating rink followed by dancing and drinks at my father's old school club here in LA LA LAND. We didn't spend a dime on anything.... and we ate a drank and had soooo much fun.

When we got home that night I lay in bed thinking about all the things I like about him. I'm used to dating men who are a little more clean cut and have great jobs, nice cars/houses, and are very educated. ROOSTER is totally opposite. Even though he is extremely clever and works well with his hands , I never thought I would fall in love with a welder/mechanic. He drinks ,smokes cigarettes ,curses like a sailor and has hard huge hands that appropriately fit his 6'4 225 lbs frame.

BUT , 4months ago, i would have over looked him ,now I'm so glad I met him.

Thursday, March 12, 2009


I'm finally able to update twitter on my cell. YAY!!!!!!!

my name is ROSIPROSITY....

Sunday, March 8, 2009


Don't fret everything is o.k. with DB, which I have so lovingly nickname ROOSTER, but we did have a bit of a discussion today. Before I met him I was in a relationship/friendship/who the HELL knows with Oswald. Great person but not a great boyfriend/homeboy/still don't have a clue. ANYWAY! I have issues behind it, baggage I guess you can call it. I seriously never thought it affected me until today. How can I let it all go? It's definitely not his fault that I have issues but I'm thankful that he's being patient with me while I work through them. It's so crazy how I let one person alter my entire personality. Was it always in me to be insecure about things but suppressed or did I develop this personality trait during the year and a half I was in that MEANINGLESS relationship!!!! OK I NEED TO BREATH CAUSE I'M GETTING PISSED 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1........ BETTER. I know what's right i know how I should react to certain situations but the beast always rears it's ugly head and I don't want to mess this one up.
What should I do?

Thursday, March 5, 2009


I want to tell you guys sooooo bad but I have to keep it a secret for a while. HERES A CLUE. It involves DB, cupcakes, a historic museum and Martha Stewart. That's all I can say .....

CAN YOU GUESS!?!?!?!?!

Monday, March 2, 2009


Since I've been in La La land I've been doing my best to save as much money as possible. I cut cost whenever necessary and try not ,absolutely not to splurge. One of the things that I have cut back on is my bi weekly hair appointments. OMG , I thought I was going to die but, I've learned to maintain my short bob pretty decently.

I wasn't going to torcher myself and completely stop. I go for special occasions to get something special. It was costing me around 120 a month to get my hair done every two weeks that included a relaxer,trim and style. When I added up the cost for the year it came out to 1,440. I cut the cost of my hair care to about 20 dollars a month. Subtracted from my savings it comes out to a total savings of 1200 dollars a year. It may not seem like a huge difference but trust me everything helps.

My hair is just as healthy and looks pretty descent for an unprofessional attempt. I use great products on my hair and try to keep heated styling to a minimum. I wouldn't advise this for people with limited time, but it's worth a try. Try this website it was helpful . What tips do you have to maintain great hair at home.

I wonder what I should used that money on ?

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

#8 Usher....... Something Special......

DB and I kissed until we fell asleep, legs twisted together, big arms wrapped around by small waist. LISTENING TO USHER. We woke up hrs later and started all over again......

Monday, February 23, 2009


I just have a question, why do married men cheat and why when there wives find out the want to confront the girl about it. This is what happened to my home girl ( I won't say her name!!) . she went to a bar all by herself one night just minding her own business and this guy ( sitting at the other end of the bar) bought her a round . MIND YOU SHE WASN'T LOOKING JUST MINDING HERE OWN BUSINESS. She did what every single American girl would do, accepted the drink and told him thank you with a head nod. About 30min later she got up to leave and the guy, we'll just call him Mr. Police man, followed her out to the car. BLAH BLAH BLAH. Long story short , HE WAS incredibly LAME!!!


ANYWAY..... after weeks and weeks of ignoring his phone calls and attempts to relive what wasn't she finally told him STOP. All of a sudden about a week later she got a call from him. She answered and I 'll be damned if it wasn't his wife. She called , sent txt explaining about how this man has a family, sent pictures of the family. She was CRAZY screaming, crying , and whatnot . WHATEVER. After the wife had her complete melt down my homegirl goes , " wait a minute who is your Husband"

LOL I thought it was funny . Not what happened to the wife but to the simple fact that my homegirl couldn't even remember who the husband was . ( SHE HAD NO IDEA HE WAS MARRIED)
I said all that to say this it's not the role of the wife to grill the women she should talk to her lying, cheating, dog of a husband. Check .

Tuesday, February 17, 2009


DB did the sweetest thing for Valentines Day!!! He normally has Saturday's off but he had to work half a day. ANYWAY though he normally goes to bed at 9p.m. to be up and ready by 4:30 a.m. he set his alarm for 12 o'clock to wake up and tell me HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!! UMMMM o.k. maybe a little sappy but oh well that was all i needed !

BERGER broke up with me on a post it!

I told him, ( WELL IT WASN'T QUITE A POST IT BUT, TXT MESSAGE NEXT BEST THING )I finally told Oswald about DB.I couldn't bring myself to actually call him so I txt. I think he was mad actually, I'm sure he was . He started asking me if he ( DB ) and I were having a physical relationship. UMMMMMM HELLO!!!! he never once asked me about an emotional relationship and I of course, didn't offer any info!!!!

What should I do...?

Should I keep the details of our spiritual connection to myself or should I tell him?

DB does things for me emotionally that Oswald failed at. If Oswald had paid attention to me like he did his ART i think we would be more then officially unofficial.

My relationship with DB is sooooooo strong that I have considered changing the name of my blog.

Why is it that when a man gets wind that you may be moving on with a more positive relationship they want to finally testify the love they have for you.

Well screw that ! you fool me once shame on you , Fool me twice shame on me , Fool me 19 times I should be committed or seeking some kind of mental help.

Well folks that all for now
Thanks for listening

Monday, February 9, 2009


I haven't posted in about a week or so and I'm kind of annoyed with myself ..I have soooo much going on and a lot to talk about. There is a new guy, we shall call him DB. Thanks AMB for the suggestion. INSTANT RECAP ! NO MORE OSWALD ( even though i haven't told him about DB) AND NO MORE COUNTRY MOUSE! ( way to many issues!!!) We've known each other for 10 yrs and never ever dated. Now we can't keep our hands off each other . Anyway I have to go,but I will post all the details of our VALENTINES DAY. ok well almost all of them. You can see a picture of him and I at a SUPERBOWL party just request me as a friend on facebook.you can find me through email. HERE IT GOES gingerbutterflyy@yahoo.com.
thanks for listening.

Tuesday, January 27, 2009


Ok so yesterday I was watching an episode of THE CITY and in this episode a rumor floats around about Adam one of the many model characters on the show. He supposedly kissed another girl at a party that his girlfriend wasn’t attending. DRAMA, DRAMA, and more DRAMA. I don’t usually blog about my obsession with reality TV. but I have a point. The girls finally meet each other a party …. Long story short the girls confronted each other. SHE TOLD HER THEN SHE TOLD HIM!

LONG STORY even shorter she believed the boyfriend. I’m so annoyed. One thing that I think I have mastered and continue to develop over the years is my BULLSHIT detector. I don’t understand how this girl couldn’t tell that she was being lied to. I don’t know, I maybe wrong or MTV did a great job of making it look like she was being PLAYED… so I’m single and men try to play me on a daily basis. I hear so many old, tired, smelly, did I say old, lines that it’s sickening.

I’m not complaining. At 28 it’s become a bit entertaining. STORY TIME!!!! Just the other day I was getting my STARBUCKS fix on (I finally found a starbucks 30min away from LALA LAND) and looking cute as usual (TOOT, TOOT). This guy approached me, VERY ATTRACTIVE, and started talking about what he did for a living etc, etc and carrying on great convo.

blah blah blah

I gave him my number he saved it no harm done I knew he wasn’t gonna call. 20 min later I get a txt from the guy “hey baby I had a great time with you last night you were amazing” WHAT THE F%^$. OMG this guy just told me that he was single and wasn’t seeing anyone. He must of meant right now. Lol

I said all that to say this DON’T GET PLAYED, REMEMBER his eyes are the window to his um you know where.


Some men are just boys in men’s clothing……


What kind of person are you when no one is looking. Would you hold the door for a stranger or are you in to much of a hurry to get where you’re going that you let the door slam in their face. When you see a chick in a busted outfit do you snap a picture to blog about it later (GUILTY!!!) or do you tell her “AWESOME BOOTS” . I have had the challenge for this year in 2009 for fix my karma and clear my conscience of all the negative energy that has accumulated over the years. I’ve written letters to old friends to tell them how sorry I was, I’ve told people how I really feel about them , I volunteer on a regular basis and I started thinking about how I say things before I say them and oh my goodness it works. I feel sooooo darn good about myself; I think being here in LALA land is the happiest I’ve been in along time. I have so much quiet me time, reflection time and time to blog even though I have no inspiration. ANYWAY take a good look in the mirror , go ahead, I’ll wait……………… what kind of person do you see well I have my mirror in hand and I love, love, love what I see. DO YOU!!

Tuesday, January 20, 2009

Parents just don't understand

Tell me I'm not the only one whose parents have become the ARE YOU GETTING MARRIED SOON ARE YOU HAVING A BABY POLICE. I can bet my Prada shoes that everyday something comes out of my mother's mouth that consists of a FAMILY type context. I can't hold a baby or look at a wedding dress without my mom getting weepy eyed. Oh , and here is the kicker , my younger brother is getting married before me..... OMG ..... she even bought me a book about HOW TO PLAN YOUR WEDDING IN 6 MONTHS. I think she wrote it though. What is the big deal about women who aren't married before 30 . It feels like I have a disease and I only have a few years to live. My mom remembers every guys name I have ever dated so i just don't tell them their names anymore. She has gotten smart though she refers to them in time frames now " OH HOW IS EARLY AUGUST LATE OCTOBER". I give up. I can't find MR. RIGHT because i'm not MS. READY. I have learned you have to prepare your life for a mate and welcome the challenge. Be more willing to compromise in certain situations and willing to listen to some one other then yourself talk . I've mastered about a half of those...........
thanks for listening .

Friday, January 9, 2009

Country Mouse chronicles

OK so Country mouse is about to make me scream at him . Not that we are an item, just friends but as a women there are so many..... Scratch that as a HUMAN there are so many thing that I need and I see now that he just doesn't have the mental capacity or maturity to handle that( NO I'M NOT SAYING HE'S STUPID.) I'm not the nagging type but I find myself nagging for one simple thing CONSIDERATION!!!!! I can't spell it out any other way. I understand when things happen and we get caught up with life and we can't get to you, but 20 hrs of waiting for you to make a decision about what we are going to do tonight just doesn't cut it for me. I wouldn't be so upset if we hadn't made these particular plans a week ago and I didn't clear MY schedule to hold up my end of the bargain . I hate coming second . HATE IT ,HATE IT ,HATE IT!!! so I have turned off the phone because I know at this point if I talk to him I will not be the nice southern girl that most people think that I am. (may I just say that I decided this year to not hold back in this blog) Anyway..... I'm totally going to stop focusing on my social life or the lack thereof and just do other thing with my time. Maybe I'll take up knitting.

Extra ,Extra read all about it!!!

I just got my new, fresh February copy of Lucky and I'm sooooo disappointed. Normally it would take me a few hours to read a magazine cover to cover but this particular issue took me about one hr if that! I'm disappointed! I know it's not completely Lucky's fault even though they did delete some parts of the magazine that they had last year . ( oh well out with the old in with the new), but the magazine is sooooo thin. Last months issue was just as thin. I know that it has to do with the ever depleting economy but DARN, i want my Lucky back. I even noticed that other magazines like GLAMOUR are just as thin. ( THAT DARN CONDE' NAST) . ANYWAY..... i will still subscribe to Lucky , i just had to get that off my chest. March is only 30 days away........


I have never liked tattoos I guess cause i never knew what to get...... Finally decided to get this one. I know that it's not original and one of my favorite personality's has this particular tat. My sister and I decided to make it special we doing it together on our next birthday. I think we will add each others initials to it to make it even more special.

Wednesday, January 7, 2009


In the beginning i had come to the decision that I was absolutely not going to have a NEW YEARS resolution, (and I'm not) but ,I just can't go into 2009 with out a plan so I decided to do a 2009 bucket list. This list will involve everything I want to accomplish before 2009 kicks the bucket.

I don't know where to begin............


I won't go in to detail about each thing on the list with the hopes that , as I navigate through the list , I can blog about it and get some opinions about what I should do.

Ok so here goes....

1. Start a non-profit
2. get another degree or at least work toward another one.
3.begin writing my cookbook
4. work on my new blog and continue writing in this one
5. take a writing class.
6. read 100 new books
7. Go to Chicago
8. get another dog ( PRECIOUS NEEDS COMPANY)
9. Go to the GEORGIA TECH /GEORGIA game

that's all for now .... hopefully i can do it so wish me luck...

What ARE YOUR 2009 goals?

Tuesday, January 6, 2009

TIP for the DAY.


Saturday, January 3, 2009


If you read my blog then some of you may know who Oswald is the absolute love of my life.... We aren't officially, official but we are official. (YEAH I DON'T GET IT EITHER)We have been away from each other for over a month and it's weird . We went from seeing each other on a daily basis to having phone calls , txts and emails as our only line of communication. So I'm hear in LA LA land (NOT L.A. though I wish it so) and I had to find something ,someone to occupy my time or to make the transition back to the real world a little more smooth. In enters COUNTRY MOUSE!!!! I can honestly say he is the sweetest guy I have ever met in my life .... ( only 28 yrs)! Can you imagine being told you were BEAUTIFUL everyday.... I know that this is not a joke because I've knew him in high school and he was always like this....... Here's where the dilemma lies as far as looks are concerned they are pretty much equal .I don't have a type in the looks department but they are both very attractive men..... There is absolutely nothing so significantly different about the other to help me with this decision. For one thing I have Country Mouse now and for the other , Oswald will be there for me when I get back..... I have no idea. o.k. and as far as personality let me put this in SEX AND THE CITY terms you all might understand. Oswald is my Mr. Big and COUNTRY MOUSE is my AIDEN.
Just so you know I'm not hurting either party, I'm not that kinda girl but, I do need to make a decision and soon.

Tuesday, December 30, 2008

My favorite Quote....

So I was having my daily dose of SEX AND THE CITY ( i love reruns)..... and Carrie said something to Charlotte that really hit home....

Carrie: Charlotte, you have a man who will always be there to catch you.

I wish I could find a man strong enough to catch me.

I want my Charlotte Moment....

Tuesday, December 16, 2008


My good friend Pierre made this for me...... the entire recipe cost about 10 dollars to make but,it made alot of soup .He froze half of it and served the rest with the bread and some Brazilian beer (SOL) YUMMY !!! this was a great dinner in..
Caldo Verde - Portugese Kale and Sausage

8 oz chorizo/chourico or linguica, diced
1 large onion,diced
3 garlic cloves, minced
8 cups chicken stock
1 pound Yukon gold potatoes, diced
1 pound kale (or collard greens) cut into a very fine julienne ( we used collard greens)
Salt and pepper
Olive oil

Heat 1 tablespoons of olive oil in a large saucepan or Dutch oven,over medium heat. Add the cubes of chorizo and cook until they are lightly browned. Remove the sausage and set aside. Add the diced onion to the rendered fat in the pan with a little salt and cook until they are translucent. Add the garlic and cook until it is fragrant, about 30 seconds. Add the stock and potatoes, and season with salt and pepper. Bring to a boil, then lower heat to a simmer. Simmer until the poatoes are

Mash half of the potato in a blender, immersion blender, or potato masher. Add half of the chourico and the julienned greens and simmer for 2 minutes, or until the greens are tender. Top the soup with the remaining cubes of chorizo and serve with bread. ( we stuck the FRENCH BREAD into the oven to get crispy) .

Monday, December 15, 2008


I'm soooo excited , my lil' sister is here for the holiday's . She will be here for 2wks .......






I am sooo excited, I was at the Thrift store over the weekend with my mother and one of her friends..... (BACK STORY): my mother loves the thrift store. Every city or town we are in she will find a thrift store and rack up. Her entire wardrobe is full of suit, pants, jackets,bags and shoes that she has found from frequenting the thrift store.: ANYWAY back to Saturday...... I had no intention of finding anything but I went through the motions of looking for shoes.... Here's what I found.....

I only paid 15 dollars for all of these.........

Next i went to the house wares and found tea sets..... All 3 for 20

Lastly I found a great new coat for 10.....

FABULOUS!!! What do you think

Friday, December 12, 2008

IVe DEcIDEd.... I like clocks...

Today i decided i am into being in my brother wedding. WHAT HAPPENED!!! well I went to get measured for my dress and try on a few samples..... It was fun playing dress-up at the dress shop... I haven't had to wear a formal dress since my prom and that was 10 yrs ago... ( I like my age).

How do you know when he/she the one.?

I've kissed soooo many frogs and I see alot of what I don't like. I often thought that i have standards that are way to high but I beg to differ. To me being in love is about a feeling you get when you see that person , when they call you ,you get excited and how awesome is it to have someone in your corner no matter what. I can't remember the last time I felt that way....... Oswald sometimes makes me feel like that but I know we aren't meant to be.... Though I wish it so . I have other old frogs that are still in my life and if i could mix them all together in one big froggy stew I would (YUMMY)!!

Is it o.k. that I may be alone forever?

I think that I have come to terms with that. I may not but at this point I have to realize that that could happen.....
I know I'm young,so I think this is just my biological clock posting this blog,
Thanks for listening

Tuesday, December 9, 2008

SEX QUIZ...... Take it if you dare!!

I'm a FIVE STAR SEX MATE ..... Says COSMO... take the quiz click here


Jessica Alba isn't necessarily a favorite actress of mine ,but she is a someone that I think is very beautiful . For all of us that read fashion magazine we understand that there's alot of retouching done in photographs, but to be completely honest with you I didn't know it was this much. Read the article in NEW YORK MAGAZINE and tell me what you think?

Look at how different the pictures look I like the first one better because she looks so natural. What do you think?

Monday, December 8, 2008


So I finally got this month's Lucky and I'm so excited, even though the issue is alot smaller then the last month. On the cover is Rosarios Dawson ( I absolutely love her!)

Her cover photo is very simple but I'm diggin on her makeup..... usually on the first few pages of they magazine they give the specifics of the shoot , down to the makeup that they used...... I was so happy when I saw the line up and it was make-up that fit right into my budget... I don't spend alot on makeup because I don't wear it everyday..... I was so happy to see this Maybelline line-up because while I was clipping coupons lastnight I saw a CVS add that put all Maybelline products on sale BUY ONE GET ONE FREE .... OMG I'm was definitely due for a makeup fix so I ceased the opportunity.... I only spent 18 dollars on .....
eyeliner pencil
and lipcolor
I think I'm going back for the Concealer hightlight duo and a new eyeshadow...
I'm not a makeup snob so the cheap stuff works for me as long as I get a good deal.


NO I'm not getting married but, my Lil bro is. My brother and I are the best of friend and I would give the world to make him happy. About a year ago he decided to pop the question to his sweetie..... and now they are getting married in May..... I have a very large family so this is going to be a huge production.... When it comes to he and I , alot of things can go unsaid. We kinda know what the other one if thinking or feeling without even being in the same room or state for that matter. Well then why didn't he pick up on the fact that I really don't want to be in the wedding. Am I wrong , am I a bad sister. I'm the oldest of the 3 and I really think that he feels obligated to put me in the wedding..... I would honestly rather watch. I've never been a wedding person, I go to show support to the people that I love but as far as being apart of the whole production, I'd rather sit on the sidelines and cheer the new couple on. I don't want to be bothered with getting fitted for my dress that i will only wear once, having restrictions on how I get my hair and nails done, and standing up there for hrs wearing a cheesy smile.......... WHAT SHOULD I DO !!! I know how bad my brother wants me in the wedding and at this point I'm only doing for him. But GOMER PILE.... if you are reading this. I'll only do this if you really want me to.

Saturday, December 6, 2008

Friday, December 5, 2008


NIC'S STICKS BY OPI.... I was reading my January Lucky and I saw them (page 62) . I went to the Target and I picked up 2 of these cute little pen like tubes of nail polish.( COM-pewter-IZED and Catch you later) I've always been a fan of OPI products because of all the great colors ..... These make it so easy for clumsy people like me to paint and go........ The website is so cool the link lets you see how these colors would look on you.... CHECK IT OUT......

Wednesday, December 3, 2008


Lastnight I was watching The TYRA BANKS show . The show was about ROCKING YOUR UGLY. Even though parts of the show seemed staged the other parts were pretty good. One segment in particular TYRA had 3 women on stage, they were all different looking women but they had one come problem . Mylandra, Stephanie, and Nicole didn't leave the house or felt comfortable in public unless they had that one thing that made them feel beautiful. Mylandra didn't leave the house with out her hair weave , Stephanie had to have a full face even at the swimming pool and Nicole tanned EVERYDAY. OMG . At first I thought OK so that's a little obsessive but when Tyra introduced a social experiment and I saw how those girls reacted to it I was convinced that this was absolutely real. It got me thinking , what can't I leave the house with out . I couldn't really think of anything until I got up this morning. As I was getting dress I realized that I couldn't find my earrings I searched for about 30min until I found a pair of my huge earring and then I was ready to go. The funny thing is when I got in my car I realize that I had on my house shoes still. Why is it that something so material can make us feel so secure.... ? The point in my opinion that Tyra was trying to get across (IN HER OWN WAY) was that we are all beautiful regardless of our appearance and we should embrace the thing that make us the most insecure so TODAY I decided to ROCK MY ugly and take off the earring because beauty is only skin deep. OK MAYBE TOMORROW.....

Show me how you Rock your ugly. Here's me rocking mine.....

Tuesday, December 2, 2008


I read this in Glamour one of my new magazine favs it's my Personality Horoscope. For all of my reader who actually know me do you think this describes my personality? I'm a Libra

Style, wit and charm define the ever-lovable Libra, the member of the zodiac who's engaged in an interminable search for balance and harmony. Balancing business and pleasure is among your foremost challenges because you tend to labor like a locomotive. You've never settled for routine or mundane roles at work or at play. And why should you? You're a natural-born leader. That's why you can preside over any frontier you settle. Your rugged individualism gives you a transcendental lift. Experience has taught you to trust your intuition and self-reliance. Even so, you're sometimes too vulnerable to the sway of others' opinions. Impeccable judgment and taste inform all of your endeavors, and your signature style makes you plenty sought after. Your social life centers around your fascination with ideas, attitudes, opinions and beliefs. You have a gift for entertaining others, fleshing them out and flirting with them intellectually. You are a gentle but passionate lover for whom sex may serve the purpose of a surrogate fulfillment. A lack of emotional commitment from a lover may frustrate you. This may leave you trying to numb the pain by artificial means. It's often said that a Libra is smart about everything — except when his or her feelings are hurt. It's worth saying again: A Libra is smart about everything — except when his or her feelings are hurt. Let your indomitable spirit and balancing act prevail.
I think that about sums it up!!!

Monday, December 1, 2008


I lie when I say I don't want to get married....... I've picked out the wedding dress and everything..

That's as far as I've gotten. There is no groom to be spoken of. ( No Oswald and I aren't getting Married) but, I think I'm allowed to have a little fun with it.... I found a very cute photo story of a married couple as I was perusing the fashion blogs
It got me thinking about my own one day wedding....... Ok that's enough of that


These shoes are on my Christmas list.......


OK so in my quest to be as absolutely girlie as possible I look for ways to pretty up my space. I like girlie things but sometimes I fell like the effort is sooooo not worth it. I've blogged about ways to make your space work for you but, I don't think this particular blog will fit into that category. ANYWAY ....... I've found a very pretty way to display and organize my jewelry . I think you will love it.

Untangle those necklaces. Keep those earrings together. Arrange your costume jewelry on a velvet background in a pretty new or antique picture frame with these instructions ( I found some great old looking picture frames and thrift stores)

Jewelry Portrait How-To
1. Have a lumberyard cut a 1-inch-thick piece of Homasote to fit the frame. Cut a piece of cotton velvet 2 inches larger all around. ( Instead of Homasote, I used cork board)

2. Center the Homasote over the velvet, plush side out. Wrap one side of the velvet over the Homasote; secure with a staple gun, 1 inch from the edge. Repeat for remaining sides, and insert into frame. ( i thought about using felt instead of velvet, but the velvet looked much more pretty)

3. Lay out bracelets and necklaces on the velvet; one by one, push hooks into position. Homasote is soft, so earrings can be pushed directly into the velvet.


Saturday, November 29, 2008


I read alot but I don't have any book ideas...... What was the last great book you read and why .....I'm going through withdrawls. Hope you can help.


PETA.....( PEOPLE FOR THE ETHICAL TREATMENT OF ANIMALS) . I know I crazy late on this story but my WI-FI situation is holding me back. Oh well....... I was reading and article about how Lindsay Lohan was publicly abused by a PETA are anti-fur activist, her reason was because of a fur jacket the actress rocked at a nightclub in Paris..... I Know that people have things they stand for 100% but, in my opinion that kind or derogatory act should not have gone unpunished. I have never in my life heard of a charity organization that would ask for money to support there cause would do something so rude and disrespectful . What ever happened to the ETHICAL TREATMENT OF HUMANS. I love animals as much if not more then the next man but porkchopssooooo good. I wonder if Lindsay Lohan showed up at the PETA headquarter wearing a fur stole, leather pants , crocodile shoes , a peacock feather in her hair and handed them a million dollars , would they take the money or would it be considered tainted. I'm sure they stand up for so much more, but you would never know. Violence is never the answer.
Thanks for listening...


As you guy know I'm not a slave to the mall and I try to find things I love anywhere, Boutique's in the city don't have the advertising power like these big time retail giants do unless you are on their mailing list.( Which I suggest you do you can save a lot) ANYWAY...... Here's what I dug up.....
Week of November 24-30, 2008

The fall collection of this ultra-cool Brit-based label, including shoes, boots, handbags, and coats, is reduced 30 to 40 percent through the end of the month.
3393 Peachtree Rd. NE
Mon.-Sat., 10-9; Sun., 12-6

Through the end of the month, the fall collection of featured designer Rachel Roy is half-price at this recently opened luxury boutique. During Thanksgiving weekend, take an additional 10 percent off fall collections, also on sale, including Linda Loudermilk and Kiamilla.
2255 Peachtree Rd. NE, Ste. G
Tues.-Sat., 11-7; Sun., 12-5

Shop the one-day Black Friday sale on November 28 for storewide markdowns: Lines like Prairie, Corey Lynn Calter, and Lauren Moffatt, plus J Brand denim and Frye boots, will be 20 to 50 percent off.
1393 N. Highland Ave.
Event: Fri., 10-7
Regular hours: Mon.-Fri., 10-7; Sat., 9-6; Sun., 12-5

Charity Fashion Swap
Donate a gently used handbag and receive 30 percent off a new handbag; donate an old dress and receive 30 percent off a new dress; and so on. All donated items will benefit the Atlanta Salvation Army.
414 E. Paces Ferry Rd.

Local Break
Located in a charming clapboard cottage with an all-white interior, this six-month-old Buckhead boutique has the most covetable finds: sexy, layerable basics from American Vintage, off-the-shoulder jersey dresses by Riller & Fount, go-with-anything cashmere cardigans from Mai, Avenue Montagne skinny pants, and lots more. Mention Lucky and save 20 percent at checkout.
3211 Cains Hill Pl.
Mon.-Sat., 10-


I was watching the television with my family lastnight and I this BLAST FROM THE PAST .........

Kim Cattrall.... i was like wow, as many time as I have watched the show POLICE ACADEMY as a kid I never knew that was her , or a least put 2 and 2 together.....
She's on of my favs and i thought I would share my WOW moment with you.



Today is Thanksgiving; I’m blogging on my Microsoft Word again because I don’t want to be rude or antisocial and go to get my daily WI-FI fix. The holidays in my house are always a major event. My parents make a huge production with all the fixings I love when they cook I swear I put on 15 pounds just look at the turkey and dressing. I’m really never around for the holiday because I was a retail slave for soooo long. So much has changed in the 10 yrs that I’ve been away from home. I’ve always know I was a little different, I definitely march to my own beat, but this holiday I think everything really took the cake. I’ve never felt so out of place in my life. When I hear my parents talk about my other sibling I hear the swoon of love and pride in their voice. I use to hear this also when I was spoken of but since I’ve been here I feel ignored, and isolated by my family. I think it is because of this transition period I have made in my life. My bed wasn’t even cleaned off when I got here. I don’t even have a place for my clothes. People have been saying just the most off the wall things about me and they think I’m doing drugs or selling ass one or the other even though I have told them time and time again I just need a break then they wonder why I don’t tell them anything and I’m always alone I hear them whisper when they think I’m not listening……. I have BIG DREAMS, I dream to work for a non-profit or open a consignment shop, eBay sell, read great books, travel, and volunteer and fundraise, have tea parties, but you can’t do that without any money. I guess when I first set out on this mission I thought my family would be behind me 100% and to me honestly that is not the case…… I am crying now!!......... I just need them to let me do what I need to do. My family not horrible I think they just really don’t understand. Now I have dubbed my self the BLACK SHEEP. I’ll let you know if anything changes.

Thanks for listening….

Wednesday, November 26, 2008


Words to live by when it come to making the world green and reducing your carbon footprint. Today I'm not talking about saving the world , I'm talking about saving your money. I enjoy thinking of new ways to stretch the almighty dollar . Single life can be filled with unnecessary spending habits. We buy a new outfit every time we go out, spend money on trips and eating out, we don't look for sales and don't take the time to clip coupons and plan meals so we don't over spend at the posh grocery store we frequent. Following a well thought out budget and making great money choices now will help you in the long run.... Here my strategy....

REDUCE the amount of times you eat out. I have a very dear friend (I WON'T OUT HER.... SHAY!!!) that I enjoy eating with. We like to go to new spots in the city and literally forget our supposed diets. We can spend about 20-30 dollars at the most eating out ,and that can add up. ( 200 dollars a month ) . If you enjoy eating out as much as I do cut somewhere else. Take you lunch to work . Fastfood is bad for you anyway so make a list of favorite lunch foods (i.e roast beef sandwiches, tunafish and crackers, even soft tacos) . Write down all your favs and make them apart of your grocery list. Also because you should be cooking more then eating out anyway save your leftover in a travel size tupperware so you can reheat it for you lunch.
Total savings 170 per month just on eating lunch out during the work week.

RECYCLE your old clothes. Have you heard the old saying , one mans trash is another mans treasure. Twice a year I go on a CLEAN MY CLOSET expedition. Make it a team effort so you'll enjoy doing it. First take your unwanted clothes to your local consignment shop. While you wait see if there is any FABULOUS find in the store.( some stores give you a discount or credit toward your purchase if they use any of you things. Once finished take all the leftovers and donate them to the local salvation army or Goodwill they will give you a receipt and you can write it off on your taxes. Remember unwanted clothes do not go back in the closet.
Total savings depends on what clothes you have but it is so worth it

REDUCE the amount of time in your car. I'm very fortunate I live close to a train station so I park and ride. I can get so much done on the train. For instance I took the train to pay my power bill ( it was only 45 dollars) , Go to the grocery store and the bank, Go to the movies and shopping, have a quick bite with friends, grab some gifts for my mom and even take a walk in 5 points. It only cost me 4 dollars where that could have easily been 1 tank of gas . I was able to read and relax on the train. I didn't worry about parking fees either.
Total saving 100 dollars a month.

REUSE your grocery list. I have on my fridge a list of what I call food staples. I went to Wal-Mart one day and I bought only necessities , meats, pasta, bread , cheese,etc. I spent about 50 on just food staples. My shopping budget a month is 100-120 dollars depending on the economy and what I can catch on sale or with coupons. Because I start cooking more to save on the cost of eating out I have a list of rules. 1) I but generic items when ever possible. generic peanut butter taste the same as the peanut butter you pay for with the fancy packaging. You may only save pennies but ,it adds up . 2)Coupon city...... I clip them and I get that from my mother. Also you can find some good ones online if all you need is some patience and a printer. 3). Don't buy snack food if you can make your own. (muffin mix is so much cheaper them in the package . Go online to find good snack recipes and you can add them to you shopping list. 4) Don't buy bottled water . Invest in a water filter and a washable container to keep your water in. You'll save loads. 5) plan your meals ahead ,it will reduce the amount of trips to the grocery store,and eating out.

QUICK TIP!! Alot of grocery stores and drug store offer savings card they are miracle workers . KROGER AND CVS are 2 of my favorites.

So there you go , these are just to easy not to do ,all it take is planning and a little will power. You'll thank me later.

Tuesday, November 25, 2008


Usually when it comes to apartment living functionality is most important. We use are apartment as a drop for clothes, a place to grab a quick bite or, sleep. At this point in our single lives buying a house is not an option but that is no excuse to not make your apartment just as homely and inviting as your would a house. I'm always looking online or in Domino magazine for ways to make my small space more inviting instead of embarrassing...Here's what I found..

1) Paint . sometimes you can't paint the wall but if you can I would advise that you do. Paint can say alot without saying anything at all. Stick with light color so that you space appears bigger....Or if you want to do that chocolate brown or deep red make sure to have alot of lighting and light colored furniture for a perfect contrast (i.e. chocolate brown walls ,cream sofa) If you are on a budget , go to the local paint shop and ask for mistake mixes. (WHAT!!) If the color isn't right for someone else it maybe right for you and they sell these at a discounted rate. Paint my friend is the cheapest way to change you space.

2)Personalizing your space... Besides painting the walls , adding in some kinds of interesting touches can speak volumes. Collectors items , mirrors,artwork. I don't have an artistic bone in my body so I usually phone a friend.lol. There are so many art shows and art fairs around town that finding art work or crafts that are interesting. can be achieved. tap into some local talent most local artist are trying to get their artwork out there so they tend to sell it on the cheap . Grab a few pieces that speak to you and you'll always have a conversation piece. Figure out what your style is are you more modern, traditional, or contemporary pick a theme and run with it . Mixing to much can overwhelm your space and the whole thing just looks like a garage sale. Go thrifting, Good Will and the Salvation army are know for FABULOUS finds if you are determined to look . Or you can do like me , I LIVE IN IKEA.....

QUICK TIP!!! Mirror are great in making you space feel large and in charge. A big mirror on a focal wall can look like another room.

3) Textiles... This can include rugs, bed linens and curtains.... Most apts come with blinds so we forget curtains. I have a duvet with a wild pattern on it so i went for curtains with one color. Make it extra cozy by adding a ton of pillows. You can do the same in you living room. Take a ordinary sofa and love seat and make it cozy with some throw pillows. Throw rugs are great in high traffic areas or under tables and shouldn't over power the room with wild and crazy patterns.

4) Furniture... SMALL SCALE = HUGE IMPACT. This is why stores like Ikea and Target are soooo popular when it comes to apt living . A chair without arms is a better pick then one with when it comes to apartment living. Limit your furniture choices and don't pick furniture that will hog up your square footage. Also try adding glass or Lucite pieces they mix well with anything and won't overwhelm your space.

Designing an apartment space takes time and effort but it's worth it if you want to make it home...


Hey reader, are you still keeping up …………… I’m absolutely about to go insane. My entire routine is out of whack…. I’m been here for two days and it feels like 30. Ok so for you that don’t know I’m on sabbatical. I decided to move back home for some mental regrouping, save some money and log in some volunteer hours. Well all I can think about is that I have no internet (yet), my mom is already nagging me about my stinky socks, and my poor little pooch is in the garage. I don’t know, it all sounded good on paper but I know that if I were in Atlanta, I would either be at Solstice, the Standard or playing Halo with Oswald. I’m literally reduced to blogging on my Microsoft word instead of online. (I’m going to cut and paste later.) . My head is so full of thoughts that I had to figure a way to vent…. I’m going to be posting about how I’m doing back home as well as my regular posts… Hopefully I won’t go crazy before time. I just decided today that my initial savings goal that I’d decided on before I move back … ok no … I have to get out of here asap unless my mother lightens up. I think because I’ve been living on my own for 10 years has just made me so set in my ways. I’m just gonna have to tell her and that’s that, I will tomorrow….

Thanks for listening…

Saturday, November 22, 2008

GREAT NEW WEBSITE... and article...

I've found an awesome new website today.... Here's what happened , I was laying in bed reading December COSMO and I cam across an article, 5 Health Issues that Hit Young Women. Hallie Levine Sklar the author writes, As a group, young women are generally healthy. That's good but there is a downside ..... According to medical experts , Cosmo spoke to young women these days are becoming lax about their health and taking potential dangerous risks.... The article reads on to explain what they mean.... When I first saw the article I immediately thought that they were going to talk about cancer, diabetes, and obesity but, no . Here's the run down of the top 5
Intense crippling Stress
Out -of Whack eating habits
Birth Control laziness
Near Epidemic STD rates
The article is great and I would advise you to pick up a copy but there were 1 or 2 things that stood out to me the most. Intense Crippling Stress and out of whack eating habits.....

Out of whack eating habits , the article spoke of a new kind of eating disorder called disordered eating. It goes to say , some disordered eaters cut entire food groups out of their diet. The article gives an example or a typical 20-30 some things diet and calorie intake.
Breakfast: 2 lattes and a bagel with cream cheese 660 calories
Lunch : grilled chicken salad with dressing 350 calories
Dinner: 3 Cosmos and a bowl of cocktail nuts
Total calories 1890 WOW. A young women should take in about 1800 calories but not this way....
Most of the time we as young women don't make time to eat and that in my opinion can be caused by the other health issue among young women. Crippling Stress.
Here's my solution to this, Sometimes you can't help how demanding you job can be . Have an outlet (mine is blogging lol) , make time for you friends , walk you dog or take 20 min. to play with it. Whatever makes you happy. If you find you don't have time to grab a bite to eat during you work week , number 1 wake up an extra 30 min to have breakfast. I have a power breakfast that I live by. 2 hardboiled eggs, half an apple, and a mini whole grain bagel with cream cheese. At work keep in you desk a tin of nuts , cheese, or fruit that you can snack on if you miss you lunch or up until you lunch then you won't have an excuse. When your off work pass by all fast food restaurants they can grab you pockets even if they do have a healthy menu. Get your girl friends involved , cook for each other once or twice a week or plan your meals before you grocery shop. This will decrease you spending by leap and bound so you'll have time for 1 Cosmo on Saturday night.....lol
Thanks for listening.
Oh here goes the website I found. tiphero.com there was an article called 20 healthy food under $1....


I absolutely love pasta . I've found a great recipe on my favorite website marthastewart.com that I will be making tonight .I think I will have may friends join me for this one. The great thing about pasta is you can have most if not all of the basic food groups in it. Because of my new diet ( NO NOT TRYING TO LOSE WEIGHT) I have to eat as healthy as possible. This recipe only take 20 min to whip up so here goes.
Serves 4
Salt and pepper
12 ounces fettuccine pasta ( The ounces are on the package)
1 cup reserved Lemon Sauce, see Roasted Chicken with Lemon Sauce
1 package (10 ounces) frozen peas, thawed (Cost $2)
1 reserved cooked chicken half, from Roasted Chicken recipe above, skin removed, meat shredded (1 1/2 cups) ( You can get this at any food stores deli)
1 tablespoon cold butter
1/3 cup grated Asiago or Parmesan cheese, plus more for garnish, if desired

In a large pot of boiling salted water, cook fettuccine until al dente, according to package instructions. Drain; set aside.
Add lemon sauce to pot. Bring to a boil; reduce to a simmer. Add peas and chicken; cook until warmed through, 2 to 3 minutes. Stir in butter until incorporated.
Remove from heat. Add pasta and cheese; season with salt and pepper. Toss to combine. Garnish with more cheese, if desired.

Grab a package of salad while you are out and french bread and you are all set . this meal should only cost about 10-12 dollars depending on where you food shop.

The cost of 4 friends eating out would cost about 76 dollars . That's a 12 dollar entree and 1 drink. When you add in gas to get there, tip for the server and parking in most cases the cost can escalate to about 90 dollars and that's just being cheap. If your friends have different taste you can have other meat or pasta options. For example shrimp at the grocery store cost about 7 dollars for 100 shrimp and you can grab a jar of Alfredo, Parmesan sauce or pesto to capture those different taste buds. So there you go have a pasta dinner before you go out on the town and you can save loads of cash . You won't feel guilty when you get your bar tab later.
Oh before I forget here goes the Lemon sauce recipe
Makes approximately 3 1/4 cups
2 cups fresh lemon juice
1 cup olive oil
1 tablespoon red-wine vinegar
1 1/2 teaspoons minced garlic
1/2 teaspoon dried oregano
Salt and pepper, to taste
Place all ingredients in a large bowl, and whisk together until well blended. Cover, and refrigerate until ready to use. Whisk or shake vigorously just before use.

Friday, November 21, 2008


As I've said before CHARITY WORK is a big part of my life. I've been working very hard on getting members to join my non-profit group , I think when great minds get together for the same cause we can accomplish big things. Even though this has been a struggle for me I still make time to help my community. This year I've decided to work with the Atlanta children Shelter. I went to their website today to see what my project would be this year. On their website they've listed a page of needs under the volunteering page. Here it goes http://www.atlantachildrensshelter.com/volunteer_ops.html. The top project on my list is Toiletry shoebox, they need 100 each year and they hand them out as needed. I plan to rally the troops to donate a box or two because I can't do it all alone. Like I always say use your talents for good and support your community. The web is a great tool to help you coordinate events to help a good cause. Have it as a theme for this years Holiday party . Through these tough economic times everyone feels the burn especially the homeless and hungry. Clean your karma and give back.


According to nymag.com Michelle Obama is getting a style book. I'M SO EXCITED
The style book due next spring will be witten by former Mademoiselle editor Mandi Norwood . "Not since Jackie O have we had a first lady become a fashion icon," she notes. It's unclear what the book will be like, but we're hoping it's something like the Sex and the City movie book, which includes a guide to every outfit worn in the movie. Ever since Michelle Obama has coming into the spotlight she has been turning had with her stunning smile and great fashion sense. ( SHE DOESN'T HAVE TO SPEND 150,000 to do so) mmmm hmm. . As i read other blogs and news articles there are very mixed reviews. Definitely every one is entitled to their opinion but the new style book is number 1 on my list. Besides this style book i'm looking to see what Mrs. Obama will do as she gracefully enters her role as First Lady. I'm hoping that the outcome of this young family will live up to the many challenges that generally face first families , but for now this style book will be on my coffee table.


NOVEMBER 20th 2008........ Oswald gave me a nick name about 6month ago PROSITY....lol DON'T laugh I think it's cute. It's a heck of alot better then baby , boo, pookie, and sweetie pie. .... I never asked what it meant before today ,I just ran with the term of endearment..... ANYWAY Yesterday was PROSITY DAY. If you don't want to hear about it o.k. but I'm posting it anyway. This day consisted of ALL my favorite things. Reading fashion magazines all day, Drinking my favorite tea ( CHAI TEA WITH SOYMILK ) YUMMY. and watching a particular movie ,I won't say the name of it but it involved lots of shoes , roger, and sex.(THIS MOVIE TOOK PLACE IN A BIG CITY) !!!lol They won't guess Oswald I promise. We ate talked laughed and had a great time just celebrating my day.... Out of the guys I've know Oswald has surprised me the most even when he wasn't trying. I'm writing this particular blog cause I know he's reading . Thank you so much...... I'm HAPPY.
Question for my readers . What has he done for you lately..... I WANNA KNOW.

Wednesday, November 19, 2008


As I've said before ,i love love love to entertain, and since I don't live close to my family to celebrate during the holiday's I tend to have a simple intimate get together with all of my close friend.( THAT'S REALLY NOT ALOT OF PEOPLE)lol. Last year I cooked a big dinner and had about 6 guest over. It was hard work. I did most of the cooking and between working and all that jazz I forgot some very key elements to the party ( entertainment , wine, and dessert)ouch. Well this year I've decided to keep it simple. Here goes my fool proof plan to pull off a great party without all the DRAMA.
1) My first task is to get invitations out . My apt only fits about 8 people comfortably. Phone calls and text messages were cool but it not very personal. This year I have all of my guests email addresses so I'm sending out evites . I found this email that allows me to send free invitations. Some of my options are to send an ecard with a personalized video, picture or just the date. time ,location option. Cost= 0$

2) Figure out your specifics. Menu, beverages, entertainment,and decorations. I decided not to do the traditional Thanksgiving dinner. I decided on a lighter option.
Veggie platter
Pizza Pinwheels
Pasta salad
Cheese balls with different cracker options.
Deviled eggs
Meatball sliders
Homemade cookies and Brownies.
Easy enough, this should all cost between 50-75 dollars . This is the heaviest part of my preparation and the most important. You could probably cut the cost if you shop smart and use you single girl coupons.
As far a beverages go you can do one of two things . have a signature drink , somthing that's easy to make like Sangria or make up something special. Or you can make it BYOB , have your guest bring their favorite bottle of wine. The Sangria will cost about 15 dollars to make. BYOB =0$

3) Entertainment is not that hard. First of all invite the friends that you know have great convo. Make sure your have a great personality mix. My friends and I love music , movies and games. You can do all three is you designate a time for each. Have music playing with an up beat playlist as guest are coming in and eating people usually have alot to talk about when they first get there. After dinner have a few games. I found some great party games online or you can definitely break out the UNO or pictunary. I went to my local Salvation Army and Goodwill and found games for the cheap and all the pieces were there. COST 1-5 dollars. Lastly throw on a movie usually by this time guest could possibly be in a munchie mood and you probably have some party stragglers pop in a bag of popcorn and serve your guest tea or coffee.

4) decorations : I know everyone has a dollar store and a target in your area. You can be so creative with just a little bit. Target has a 1 dollar section with tons of festive goodies and great ideas for goody bags at the end or the night. This year I found little martini shakers in various colors .I'm filling those with a mini bottle of liquor and my favorite candy. HERSHEY KISSES.
Alot can be accomplished with a little prepartion and keeping you eye open . If you find some good things on sale because you can always use those for next year. Remember, get a friends help, have a FABULOUS outfit no matter the cost and, KISS( keep it simple sexy.


Today I had to do a favor for a friend. I ended up in BANKHEAD of all places. I was extremely hungry and not knowing the area I got in my car and drove.....and drove .....and drove...... I ended up at this place called SOULE'. I didn't know what it was but I was sooooo hungry I had to stop to grab a bite. Parked , went in , and I was welcomed by a man sitting behind the bar. (OK ROSILEN NO DRINKING BEFORE 5) Anyway. After looking over their menu and the lunch special ,I decided on the tilapia with two sides,macaroni and cheese and squash YUMMO. Mr. Ross, I later found was the owner ,manager, and head chef, a man of many hats I like that. he chatted with me for a bit let me sample some of his side items even the special for the day . I was in hog heaven. Being a girl with roots in the south and Soul FoOd is definitely at the top of my list of favorite food styles. I had a great meal cause I went straight to sleep after. Another absolutely FABULOUS thing about this place and something that is definitely blog worthy is that they give back to the community . At least once a month they have free meals for the homeless, clothing drives during the holidays and gather the local businesses to give back as well . I over heard him talking to some local barber shops about giving free hair cuts to the homeless. HOW AWESOME.....!!! I love when people use their talents for good and Mr. Ross does just that. He left me with a great quote " We do this to get crime off the streets , If we don't help our community who will." LOVE it.... I will always eat at this place . I have to help those who help others. Click on the link to check it out.http://www.souleatl.com/ I know it's a bit of a stretch to get there but totally worth it.


I have a special shout out to one of my friends. Today is his birthday HAPPY BIRTHDAY AMB!!!!! DUDE YOU'RE Getting up there... LoL... Here goes your Birthday song......
CLICK ON THE LINK DUDE....http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UeypOvsY91Q
Hope you have a great day.......

Tuesday, November 18, 2008


I think I'm probably the most single out of all of my friends. I absolutely HATE HATE HATE dating. All of the work it takes , DRAMA. Well i think it's fun to get all of the "HOW TO ATTRACT A MAN TIPS" Complete BULLSHIT here goes the latest , tell me what you think.

Dating tip #1: Go out in groups of no bigger than three. Larger groups of girls are supertough (read: intimidating) to approach. Three is a good number because your two friends can keep each other company when a guy walks up to chat with you.

Dating tip #3: Smile genuinely. So obvious, right? But I can't stress it enough -- and I can't believe I ever acted aloof in an attempt to seem more cool. Now I know that women smile all the time naturally (when we're nervous, when we're trying to be polite, etc.), so if you don't do it at all, you look unapproachable.

Dating tip #4: Work the eye contact. To reel him in from across the room, tilt your chin down a bit and flash him a couple of sultry glances. (Guys love it when you look up at them -- it makes them feel manly.) If the guy across the room is so gorgeous you have a hard time looking straight at him and are simply too nervous, fake it by focusing on the tiny area right between his eyes. He won't be able to tell the difference.

Dating tip #5: Don't immediately ask him what he does. Some men think all women are gold diggers. A lot of my clients hated being asked what their job is. It's that fear-of-being-used thing again.

Dating tip #6: Make positive small talk. Once I started studying other women, I couldn't believe how negative some of us appear. When you're out on the town, you're supposed to be having fun, and any complaint ("It's hot in here!"), pessimism ("There will definitely be another terrorist attack"), or snarky quip ("Look at that chick's belt -- so 2002!") pretty much pokes a hole in the fun-girl aura you should be projecting. Some better small-talk topics: recent vacations, favorite bands, hilarious movies. You can hit him with your deep, dark world-view some other time.

I can honestly say I have tried all of these things. NONE have worked for me maybe you my readers can help. What am i doing wrong.

Just wanna say.


Monday, November 17, 2008


Oswald and have this thing I play HALO 3 with him and he reads magazines with me. I decided to do a little experiment on him, ELLE had a great artical for NOVEMBER , "What's you little black dress personality" . I had him choose which style of LBD he liked. They gave 5 examples, retro, edgy, romantic, sophisticated, sexy. I wanted an average man's opinion on the style they liked (AVERAGE= HOTTIE there you go O) ANYWAY. he chose edgy and sophisticated two totally opposite styles. That just goes to show how men like their variety. I love the classic retro style LBD or the sexy ones. Here go a few LDB's that I thought were interesting tell me what you think.

Beyonce in a futuristic LBD at the Europe music awards, It's really edgy but I don't know about the hand gear. Heidi Klum looked FABULOUS in this Kaufman Franco LBD.

Ok so finally this is the LBD I chose for NEW YEARS what do you think.
Give me you best version of the perfect LBD.

Saturday, November 15, 2008


Empty calories describes food thats high in calories but low in nutritional value according to healthcastle .com. These food include junk food ( fast food ,chips,and anything deep fried), sweets( candy , soda, cookies), and beer. When I'm in restaurants at the grocery store or even just on t.v. we are warned against the dangers of empty calories and the effect they can have on you physically.

Well, I'm here to warn you about another type of empty calorie. EMPTY SEX CALORIES. What are "empty sex calories " you ask . They can be described (by me) as sex that may be high in pleasure but low in emotional value. WE ALL HAVE HAD THEM . One night stands , dead end relationships , and booty calls are stocked full of these calories .YUMMY. We as women love them they do the same thing to us as the empty calories we get from those food we love . FRENCH FRIES = OSWALD. lol (Just kidding). These empty sex calories settle in places that can be hard to get rid of. How do we avoid these EMPTY SEX CALORIES. I know it maybe hard to stop cold turkey but you can definitely take baby steps. Just say no to those late night phone calls STOP ANSWERING THE PHONE, put it on silent after 12 or just turn it off completely. Take off those beer goggles , take a trust worthy girlfriend out with you to just help you say NO!!!( THANKS SHALONDA) and finally get rid of all the dirty birds in you life. DELETE DELETE DELETE. Clean house it's ok to be a bitch sometimes that will help you weed out the bad ones .I always say if he doesn't come correct he doesn't cum at all . YOU GO GIRL!!! i know you can do it, let's show these men they do not have a hold on us. If you like those empty sex calories that's cool. If you can handle it go for it . I'm looking for a healthy relationship with lots of perks .

thanks for listening.

just sayin''

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Atlanta..... Since I was young I've always wanted to live here. I used to tell my mom that when I grow up I want to live under the big Ferris wheel(six flags) lol . I've been alot of places because my father was in the military. I moved here in 2005. I had a great job that love I had a apartment in a nice area and I met friends pretty quickly. I was dating and hanging out , dinner movies the whole nine. I spent money like crazy, new clothes , going out , and just general living. I've never had any regrets about the choices I've made in my life but when i look at the way I changed when I got here I doubt my decisions. I really feel like I was engulfed by this city.. My parents weren't happy about me moving here but I did it anyway . Did they know something about me that I didn't . Should I have listened to there warning. Growing up many things were taken care of for me that I never had to worry about, paying bills, doing laundry, even just making well thought out life choices. I did really crazy things like spend my money to go out to one of the many parties that bombarded my email on a daily basis instead of doing adult things like pay bills. I saw it all , I saw girls lose themselves to become the it girls who dated the hottest guys had a nice car and was invited to every party with V.I.P. status .I was one of them. Yes i regret not focusing on the task at hand and if I can change the way the city began to eat me alive I would do sooooooo many things differently. I can say at this point while i sit here to blog about this I have definitely changed. I look at how I was influenced by city life I was never in the lime light or on of the popular girl , but that was all by choice. Atlanta has many great qualities. It's a very progressive city and has lots to offer. I came here at a time when I thought that I knew myself but I realize I didn't know my adult self. I let the city make my decisions for me .I didn't trust how smart I was and let men and so called friends develop my life style for me. So here goes my warning , if you reading this blog and you are making a decision to move here make sure you have a plan . A successful plan that help you deal with all the inconsistencies in life . Make sure to keep your family really close to you . They will keep you on level ground and surround yourself with friends that have your back no matter what( thanks SHALONDA) .Lastly keep God in your life or whatever you believe in to keep your spirit in tack. I love this city but I have to let her go for a bit. I don't want to say goodbye so I'll say see you later.
thanks for listening.